Archive for February, 2012

Don’t be a rabbit in the lions den

Today’s topic is about being a female in a male dominated business and what it takes to be successful as a manager. The battle of the sexes is as old as the hills. Being a female manager just adds icing to the cake ūüôā

I’m going to start this off by being rather blunt. To make it in the business world, you’ve got to¬†have bigger balls than they do. Don’t ever let them see you sweat, don’t back down, don’t get riled up, don’t take no for an answer and most of all don’t take crap from anyone. If you’re weak, you might as well be¬†an injured rabbit in a lion’s den…you’re going down fast. Bring out your Type A personality and rock with it!

You’ve got to learn how to ninja their brains. Take lots of deep breaths. Enroll in an intense kickboxing class after work to get the stress out.¬†¬†Also learn that there is¬†a very fine¬†art to killing them with kindness. You need to realize that not everyone in the world will want to see you succeed. There are barnacles out there who will enjoy watching you fail. Do not give them the satisfaction. When you’re on top of the ladder look down to them and wave. Throw them a few crumbs. Keep smiling!

Have a confrontation? Take time to think through a situation before acting on it. There may be more to the story that you are seeing. Your co-workers are more than just minions. They can also be considered your extended family. Most of us spend more time with our co-workers than we do with our blood relatives. Take off your managerial hat and take time to get to know the people you are working with. Knowing their strengths, hot buttons, weaknesses and stresses from outside of work may help considerably.

I’ve been in management since I was 21 and when I first started out it was very hard. I was a green pea coming in and telling people twice my age how to do it, when to do it and excusing them when they couldn’t do it. Now with 7 years of experience under my belt, I believe¬†the difference in my style¬†is that I’m never going be the typical corporate turd. I put my heart into my work. I have never once had to¬†act inappropriately¬†to get what I want out of anything and I will not. I will earn my success by proving my worth. I’m the manager¬†who goes¬†around motioning for my sales team to smile, giving them a thumbs up, pats on the back, pep talks. If your team doesn’t come out of a meeting pumped and ready to tackle the day, then you need to go back¬†in and try it again. Manager= motivator. Small words of encouragement go a LONG way and having a good attitude in front of¬†a potential customer¬†is a must. You must view every person as a potential customer! Every meeting is an opportunity. First impressions are the most important and last a lifetime.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”-Marianne Williamson


Have a great weekend everyone!


Define “Beautiful”

I¬†chose this top to cover first because it’s something I feel so strongly about. Every day I see people judging, pre-qualifying, discriminating, bullying…and it infuriates me.

Never judge someone based on their appearance. Do not treat them differently just because they look different. Every person has a heart that beats and a heart that breaks.

Tattoos: Expressions placed on the skin to represent who you are, a time, a place. Just as a photo freezes time and holds onto the memory, so does a tattoo. The number of tattoos you have or the placement of them should not affect how society views you as a person. I’ve gotten¬†a few turned up noses when I show my shoulder tattoo at ritzy places, but those people who judge need to realize that times have changed and I can be just as classy sporting my ink and my exterior doesn’t even do justice to describe what is in my heart. “My body is a journal in a way. It’s like what sailors used to do, where every tattoo meant something, a specific time in your life when you make a mark on yourself, whether you do it yourself with a knife or with a professional tattoo artist.” —- Johnny Depp

Weight: From a size¬†0 to a size 40, we are all beautiful. Our exterior is just merely a shell that protects what lies within. There is no perfect size. Beautiful is healthy, curves, smiles, personality, self-confidence. For the people who will leave a significant other because of weight gain, shame on you. Your goal should be to help everyone be healthy. Coach people on how to eat well, exercise well, live well. “Ideal teachers are those who use themselves as bridges over which they invite their students to cross, then having facilitated their crossing, joyfully collapse, encouraging them to create bridges of their own.” — Nikos Kazantzakis

Disability: God’s way of saying, “you’re unique, you’re special, you’re strong.” To the corporate guy who flaunts his money, his success, his fancy car…take a step back and think about what a person with a disability faces daily. Can you look death eye to eye and not flinch? Can you take handfuls of medications and treatments daily that make you sick and still keep smiling? Can you hear and see people making fun of¬†something they do not understand¬†and still stay strong? Instead of spending time on the golf course, volunteer at a children’s hospital. Open your eyes to the world.”The moral test of government is how it treats those who are in the dawn of life . . . the children; those who are in the twilight of life . . . the elderly; and those who are in the shadow of life . . . the sick . . . the needy . . . and the disabled.” – Hubert H. Humphrey

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Next subject: Being a female manager in a male dominated profession.

Welcome to my world!

So, here it is my loyal minions!…..A portal into my crazy mind.

My first entry is just an intro so don’t expect awesomeness just yet. Wait for it….. : )

I’m a 29 year old¬†single mom of an amazing little one year old boy, work a full time job as an Internet sales manager at a car dealership and handle my business on my own! I love my life and do not regret a single thing.¬†Everything worked out exactly as¬†it should have and it is true that EVERYTHING happens for a reason. My experiences have made me stronger than I ever thought I could be. When days¬†are hard, my son is my sunshine.

When I was very young I started writing. I figured out the best way to vent is through your words. Even though they often go unspoken, they are in some way out there for the world to see. When the words flow the weight is lifted. From this came stories, songs, poems…and I have been told by many that my words are inspirational. So, now I will begin to share those words with you.¬†Enjoy ūüôā