ImageAfter spending numerous hours watching friends fall to pieces over an ex, here lies the question of the day….Is it ever a good idea to rekindle things with an ex?

An ex becomes an ex for a reason. Before you think about lighting the fire of doom again think about the reasons you didn’t like that person. Their attitude, poor work ethic, cheating, language, habits, etc. Are you really able to put the past completely behind you and start fresh or will the past hang around in the back of your mind and nag at you daily? If your significant other cheated, will you ever be able to trust them when they are out alone? If there were physical problems will you ever be able to regain your self-confidence? Do not try to bury the problem because I assure you it will come out full force if an arguement starts. And goodness if there are children involved, do NOT drag them through the agony too.

One of your previous significant others whom you’ve had a relation-shit, and coincidentally, a break up with. In most cases, not someone you ever want to see again. In very VERY rare cases, someone you might still talk to and consider a friend, because you both have a history and too many experiences to forget about together and are both mature enough to push any emotions you have left (if any), aside.

Love is about finding true happiness that lasts. No where in a love story do you hear about either character having to settle. There is no need to settle. There are millions of fish in the sea and unless you’re a hermit, chances are you will run into someone new! Ladies, go buy a new sexy matching bra/panty set, put on a shade of lipstick you’ve never tried, sport some 5″ heels and smile. Guys, might be time to invest in that new cologne everyones been talking about, spend 2 minutes getting your hair just right and do a few extra reps in the gym. Get to feeling good about yourself and that attitude goes a long way and will get you the extra attention you’re after! No more crying over spilled milk!

“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep… wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you…. The one who turns to his friends and says, ‘that’s her.’”