Category: LIFE


Embracing 5am

5:00am est…The house is still. The only sounds I hear are from outside and the white noise of the baby monitor waiting on the baby to stir. It is peaceful. It is the only time of day when I can take very deep calm breaths. I can collect all of my thoughts. I can organize. I mentally prepare for the day. Because at 6am…

“Good morning Mom! Im thirsty! Im hungry! I need to tell you about my dream! I have to potty!”

Make breakfast

Walk the dog

Feed the fish

Get everyone dressed for school

Brush everyone’s teeth

Pack a lunch

Make time for random requests & questions: “Please put your shoes on. Brush your teeth, not the dog, Why are you naked? Please get the food off of the floor. Don’t hit each other. Get out of the bathtub. Did you miss the toilet completely? Go get an injury ice pack. The sippie cup isn’t a sprinkler.” Etc etc. 6am is GO time. And from there it doesn’t slow down again until 9pm.

But, it’s fun. It’s a rush. It’s things I would never wish to replace or miss. Our life is busy and full and exciting. Every day we learn and experience and push our imaginations to the max. We laugh, dance, sing & play the hours away. Every night when we lay down we are tired and happy. And I wait to exhale until 5am rolls around again.

If your day comes to a close and you are not satisfied just think…what else could you have done with your time?

 

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Lost and Found

With the tragic events from the past few weeks I have found myself surrounded by doubt, confusion, guilt, sadness and I have a very empty place in my heart. We lost a loved one to an overdose on Friday the 8th. As a nation we lost precious innocent children because of a crazed killer on Friday the 15th. There were horrific events in between those episodes that lead me to now question the sanity of each person I pass.

The news is on every tv station, every radio station, every newspaper, every website and it is being discussed in every household. If absurd amounts of attention are what these murderers were after, they have achieved their goal. The media disgusts me. They are first on the scene to see if they can get a glimpse of the gruesome setting, they shove their cameras into the faces of the heartbroken parents, interview the shocked children and turn the crime into a circus. They dig for information that hasn’t been released yet and the way they recite the details makes it seem as if they lack the ability to feel. If the shooter had lived, he would probably be flipping through the channels absolutely giddy with his newfound fame.

What can we blame these incidents on??? God, mental illness, drugs, a disturbed childhood…We all race to point a finger, but the question is when we will stop to face reality. Have you ever stopped to think maybe WE are to blame? When is the last time you prayed, donated to a charity, smiled at a stranger, went out of your way to help someone, studied to understand a mental illness, talked to a child about the dangers of drugs and alcohol, reported child abuse, stopped to pay close attention to someone other than yourself…WHEN? If you can name a date, how often do you do these things? GOOD DEEDS SHOULD BE PART OF YOUR DAILY ROUTINE.

There’s the constant question “Am I raising my child like I should?” Each parent believes their child is beautiful and perfect. As a parent, I believe my child came straight from heaven and is an angel. But, as parents we must also never be too proud to admit when there may be a problem. If you notice behavior/temperament issues, it is our responsibility to address it instead of pushing it under the rug in hopes that it will disappear. Small issues may manifest into things we could never fathom. Mental illnesses do not heal themselves, so when you seek help you are doing the right thing.

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Don’t be a rabbit in the lions den

Today’s topic is about being a female in a male dominated business and what it takes to be successful as a manager. The battle of the sexes is as old as the hills. Being a female manager just adds icing to the cake 🙂

I’m going to start this off by being rather blunt. To make it in the business world, you’ve got to have bigger balls than they do. Don’t ever let them see you sweat, don’t back down, don’t get riled up, don’t take no for an answer and most of all don’t take crap from anyone. If you’re weak, you might as well be an injured rabbit in a lion’s den…you’re going down fast. Bring out your Type A personality and rock with it!

You’ve got to learn how to ninja their brains. Take lots of deep breaths. Enroll in an intense kickboxing class after work to get the stress out.  Also learn that there is a very fine art to killing them with kindness. You need to realize that not everyone in the world will want to see you succeed. There are barnacles out there who will enjoy watching you fail. Do not give them the satisfaction. When you’re on top of the ladder look down to them and wave. Throw them a few crumbs. Keep smiling!

Have a confrontation? Take time to think through a situation before acting on it. There may be more to the story that you are seeing. Your co-workers are more than just minions. They can also be considered your extended family. Most of us spend more time with our co-workers than we do with our blood relatives. Take off your managerial hat and take time to get to know the people you are working with. Knowing their strengths, hot buttons, weaknesses and stresses from outside of work may help considerably.

I’ve been in management since I was 21 and when I first started out it was very hard. I was a green pea coming in and telling people twice my age how to do it, when to do it and excusing them when they couldn’t do it. Now with 7 years of experience under my belt, I believe the difference in my style is that I’m never going be the typical corporate turd. I put my heart into my work. I have never once had to act inappropriately to get what I want out of anything and I will not. I will earn my success by proving my worth. I’m the manager who goes around motioning for my sales team to smile, giving them a thumbs up, pats on the back, pep talks. If your team doesn’t come out of a meeting pumped and ready to tackle the day, then you need to go back in and try it again. Manager= motivator. Small words of encouragement go a LONG way and having a good attitude in front of a potential customer is a must. You must view every person as a potential customer! Every meeting is an opportunity. First impressions are the most important and last a lifetime.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”-Marianne Williamson

TOP 10 MOST POWERFUL WOMEN IN HISTORY: http://listverse.com/2008/10/02/top-10-most-powerful-women-in-history/

Have a great weekend everyone!

Define “Beautiful”

I chose this top to cover first because it’s something I feel so strongly about. Every day I see people judging, pre-qualifying, discriminating, bullying…and it infuriates me.

Never judge someone based on their appearance. Do not treat them differently just because they look different. Every person has a heart that beats and a heart that breaks.

Tattoos: Expressions placed on the skin to represent who you are, a time, a place. Just as a photo freezes time and holds onto the memory, so does a tattoo. The number of tattoos you have or the placement of them should not affect how society views you as a person. I’ve gotten a few turned up noses when I show my shoulder tattoo at ritzy places, but those people who judge need to realize that times have changed and I can be just as classy sporting my ink and my exterior doesn’t even do justice to describe what is in my heart. “My body is a journal in a way. It’s like what sailors used to do, where every tattoo meant something, a specific time in your life when you make a mark on yourself, whether you do it yourself with a knife or with a professional tattoo artist.” —- Johnny Depp


Weight: From a size 0 to a size 40, we are all beautiful. Our exterior is just merely a shell that protects what lies within. There is no perfect size. Beautiful is healthy, curves, smiles, personality, self-confidence. For the people who will leave a significant other because of weight gain, shame on you. Your goal should be to help everyone be healthy. Coach people on how to eat well, exercise well, live well. “Ideal teachers are those who use themselves as bridges over which they invite their students to cross, then having facilitated their crossing, joyfully collapse, encouraging them to create bridges of their own.” — Nikos Kazantzakis

Disability: God’s way of saying, “you’re unique, you’re special, you’re strong.” To the corporate guy who flaunts his money, his success, his fancy car…take a step back and think about what a person with a disability faces daily. Can you look death eye to eye and not flinch? Can you take handfuls of medications and treatments daily that make you sick and still keep smiling? Can you hear and see people making fun of something they do not understand and still stay strong? Instead of spending time on the golf course, volunteer at a children’s hospital. Open your eyes to the world.”The moral test of government is how it treats those who are in the dawn of life . . . the children; those who are in the twilight of life . . . the elderly; and those who are in the shadow of life . . . the sick . . . the needy . . . and the disabled.” – Hubert H. Humphrey

 Feel free to provide feedback!!!  Also, if you have a subject you want me to cover leave a comment and let me know.

Next subject: Being a female manager in a male dominated profession.